Hello readers,

It is another fine hot day to write another “table shaking “post. The question above reminds me of the phrase “cool, calm and collected”. Yet, too much of a good thing is bad. When you are cold and aloof, people tend to flock to you. Of course, that is preposterous! People will back up or make a dash for it.

Even so, I am not writing about introverted people but those whose emotional distance have caused “general wahala” (“wahala” means trouble) in their lives. So let us start the rumble game (dah dah deedum).

1. Are you content with being distant from your family despite their efforts of trying to get close to you (and by your admission, they are good people, yet you do not see a need for having a close family bond)?

2. Are you content or fine with being alone?

3. Do you seek activities that do not involve people?

4. Does your spouse or partner complain of you avoiding intimacy?

5. Do you lack a desire for intimacy?

6. Do your colleagues complain that you tend to avoid them and that you avoid team activities?

7. Do you feel the world should leave you alone and let you enjoy your solitude?

8. Do you feel flat, wooden sometimes?


Are you too paranoid?



Good morning family of readers, l am excited to start this new series with because it has been a cause dear to my heart. Mental Health is not a joke, not a trifle as it can affect the quality of life a person has. Now let us get to the heart of the matter.

In Nigeria, the belief in supernatural forces, which have the power to change the life course of a person, is very pervasive. I know many Nigerians that are “code” (hide) their affluence because of the fear of witches or wizards (To digress, if these witches have that much power, then there is no need to hide as they can see us through their magic mirrors LOL. Please, people of the night, I mean no disrespect; it might just be that it would be tiresome using your powers all the time.) As a result of this belief, people attribute all their misfortunes to others, a wicked uncle or an old woman who will not let you rest. Here, deliverance sessions are held to cast off those spirits of ill-fortune.

In addition, the unwelcoming economic lassitude, lack of basic infrastructure, emerging winds of tribalism and regionalism and the fabric of basic human kindness torn in tatters, it is no surprise that majority of Nigerians view each other with suspicion and distrust.

Now, we do not want to get ahead of ourselves, there is a healthy dose of paranoia but when your sense of paranoia starts affecting domains of your life, name it, your work, relationships and health and these patterns have persisted for a long time ,then “bros and sisters”, we have a problem here. Let me shake this table some more,

– Are you always reading bad meaning to all the comments people make even if they are your loved ones?
– Are you always preoccupied with the belief that your spouse is cheating on you despite that you have no sufficient or shred of proof?
– Are you distrustful of all your workmates, always thinking they are out to get you?
– Do you get angry at the slightest criticism?
– Do you have a diary where you write all the injustices done to you?
– Do you believe that everyone is out there to exploit scam or harm you despite evidence to the contrary?
– Are you the parent that calls your children names and accuse them of wrongdoings you have not seen them commit or without proof?
– Do you believe that everyone is not deserving of your love as they are worthless and bad people?
– Have your beliefs of suspicion and distrust affected your relationships and life in general?
– Have you attacked people before because you felt they were destroying your reputation, yet no single proof?
– Have your family complained that they have tried to please and win your heart, yet you keep accusing them of being malevolent?

My dear people, if you answered yes to four or more of these questions, you are either “a person of the night” (who can divine the thoughts and intentions of others even before they act on it, please show us your divining calabash )
,God or simply needing the services of a therapist .

This would be continued next post. Please drop your comments and let me know what you think?

The wait

I am waiting  for a Job . However  what do I do in  the  meantime, I spend  time  looking  at  fashion blogs, creating design and reconnecting with  my music roots. If you  are in  a situation like mine, don’t  fret. You  should  use that  time to do what you always wanted to do.

You should assess  your skillset and match it to your fashion. For  example I am very creative but I don’t y have the time to sew  a garment  so I will rather  focus on the design process and collaborate  with a fashion illustrator.

Anyway ciao

Plus size Glam

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First the basics of being glam despite being plus size is to understand your body.

You need clothes that have some structure to them.You also need to pick up clothes with solid colors .Choose shoes that are comfortable such as wedges, boots ,sandals that have wide fit.22301383_normal 137798046 80b274aa57278a5b5e2da697195ab5c5

How to happy

Yay! I am happy to be back! I promise to be regular with my posts from now on.

I have gone through the birthing process giving birth to a darling tot and with the sleep deprivation, constant changing of diapers and visits to the immunization center ,I would say that I gained some valuable life lessons along the way.

As a mom you need to make some sacrifices with your time,emotions and energy.By now  I am looking at various career options  namely fashion and medicine or even go to school to gain new skills. However making sure I have time for my child ,guiding her through her developmental milestones,helping her with language development is my highest priority.

So how do I navigate through family and career choices? I realize I am a human being ,then I delegate tasks to my significant other and other family members.If you don’t ask for help, you are not going to get it. I then draft a list of my goals and assigning priority numbers to them.Then I start to flesh out how I would realize my goals.

For example,I plan to find a job as a medical officer while still honing my taste in fashion  for about two years.Then I will start apply for an academic masters program in a medical specialty while setting up an online fashion store .So write those goals on paper with timelines and make a list of your support system. Support system is key to achieving your goals.

In my next post I would tell you how to create a support system if you do not have one. Have a wonderful day Ciao.