It is another fine hot day to write another “table shaking “post. The question above reminds me of the phrase “cool, calm and collected”. Yet, too much of a good thing is bad. When you are cold and aloof, people tend to flock to you. Of course, that is preposterous! People will back up or make a dash for it.
Even so, I am not writing about introverted people but those whose emotional distance have caused “general wahala” (“wahala” means trouble) in their lives. So let us start the rumble game (dah dah deedum).
1. Are you content with being distant from your family despite their efforts of trying to get close to you (and by your admission, they are good people, yet you do not see a need for having a close family bond)?
2. Are you content or fine with being alone?
3. Do you seek activities that do not involve people?
4. Does your spouse or partner complain of you avoiding intimacy?
5. Do you lack a desire for intimacy?
6. Do your colleagues complain that you tend to avoid them and that you avoid team activities?
7. Do you feel the world should leave you alone and let you enjoy your solitude?
8. Do you feel flat, wooden sometimes?
I am waiting for a Job . However what do I do in the meantime, I spend time looking at fashion blogs, creating design and reconnecting with my music roots. If you are in a situation like mine, don’t fret. You should use that time to do what you always wanted to do.
You should assess your skillset and match it to your fashion. For example I am very creative but I don’t y have the time to sew a garment so I will rather focus on the design process and collaborate with a fashion illustrator.
Yay! I am happy to be back! I promise to be regular with my posts from now on.
I have gone through the birthing process giving birth to a darling tot and with the sleep deprivation, constant changing of diapers and visits to the immunization center ,I would say that I gained some valuable life lessons along the way.
As a mom you need to make some sacrifices with your time,emotions and energy.By now I am looking at various career options namely fashion and medicine or even go to school to gain new skills. However making sure I have time for my child ,guiding her through her developmental milestones,helping her with language development is my highest priority.
So how do I navigate through family and career choices? I realize I am a human being ,then I delegate tasks to my significant other and other family members.If you don’t ask for help, you are not going to get it. I then draft a list of my goals and assigning priority numbers to them.Then I start to flesh out how I would realize my goals.
For example,I plan to find a job as a medical officer while still honing my taste in fashion for about two years.Then I will start apply for an academic masters program in a medical specialty while setting up an online fashion store .So write those goals on paper with timelines and make a list of your support system. Support system is key to achieving your goals.
In my next post I would tell you how to create a support system if you do not have one. Have a wonderful day Ciao.